"Don't work at your marriages. Play" - Leonard Sweet
Too often work is something that we try avoid. We wait for the evenings, weekends and holidays. Work is viewed as a burden and drudgery. A boring thing we must suffer through.
We want to play.
Now playing at something does not mean that it is easy. Consider playing sports.
It can be very difficult at times (watch the Olympics). But we embrace the difficulty because of the joy of playing. We push ourselves to get better and better out of our love for the sport.
When we play instead of working we actually become better.
At a cyclocross race (the best kind of bike racing) there are different categories, A race and B race (A being the better bikers). Watching a race I noticed the B racers worked. They worked hard, they were pushing themselves (sometimes to the point of throwing up). There was blood, sweat and tears.
The A racers played. They were showing off to the crowd, smiling. Still pushing hard, and there were still blood, sweat and tears. But they played...and they were a lot faster and better then the B racers.
If we stop working at our marriages (doing the minimum because we have too while just waiting to do something fun) and instead play at our marriages - embrace difficulty, bring blood, sweat and tears - because of the joy of being married, it will become more and more wondrous.